Someone once said, “‘The chains of habit are too light to be felt until they’re too heavy to be broken.’”
Sometimes, to become great at what we want, we don’t need to add up more things. We need to get rid of some of them.
But we don’t quite notice the small decisions on an everyday basis. We can only look at the end results and then connect the dots looking backwards. Because “success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day,” the late Jim Rohn would say.
Although I can’t tell you the definition of success – because everyone has their own – I can tell you that there are certain things which are universal, which will make you successful if you remove them from your life.
Some will be easy and instant, while others will take a while.
1. Give up on the habit of neglecting your body
“A healthy mind in a healthy body” – Latin phrase
You only have one body so you should take care of it. It’s ridiculous how the first thing that we start ignoring when we are busy is our body.
The three things that cause the biggest disbalance when it comes to our bodies are sleep, nutrition, and exercise.
40 percent of Americans are sleep deprived, 30 percent are obese, and only 23 percent get enough exercise.
Give up on the habit of neglecting your body and you will see improvements in all areas of your life.
2. Give up on the habit of saying YES to things that don’t support you in life
“Learn to say no to the good so that you can say yes to the best.” – John C. Maxwell
If you have problems with this, you don’t have to say no immediately. Use something which Michael Bungay Stanier calls the delayed yes. You ask a couple of questions between the moment the person asked you to do something and the moment you say Yes back.
You will soon realize that you can remove 90% of the “obligations” that people put on your plate. You don’t appear rude by saying no to people, but considerate about your time and skills needed for that.
And for other areas of your life, you need to prioritize time. This is not some strategic exercise, this is literally about spending your day on the things that matter to you most. Define what that is and stick to it.
If your friends call you up for a beer but you know that you need to write your paper, then you know what you need to do (of course, go for a beer with friends).
3. Give up on the habit of thinking there is a “magic bullet”
“You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant”- Warren Buffet
Do you know how I managed to read 47 books in a single year?
I read 20 pages of a book every single day.
There is no magic bullet that will catapult you into success. There is no hack for learning how to write or building a habit. There is just commitment, effort, and consistency.
That is how everyone succeeds.
The best time to start building yourself was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.
4. Give up on the habit of short-term thinking
“It takes 10 years to become an overnight success” – Biz Stone, Twitter cofounder
Successful people don’t think in terms of goals. They think in terms of processes. They don’t go to the gym to lose 20 pounds. They go to the gym to stay/become healthy. Losing 20 pounds is just a side-effect of that.
They don’t start a business to make money. They start a business to create an impact in people’s lives. Money is just a side-effect of that.
When you think long-term, the short-term will take care of itself.
5. Give up on the habit of spending time with toxic people
“You are the average of five people you spend the most time with” – Jim Rohn
You are the average of the five people you hang the most with. And now add up toxic people in that group and voila, you too become like that.
When you enter into the mud to drag a person out, you both just get mud on yourself. So if you think that you can save people who are toxic, you are just dragging yourself into a toxic environment.
If you are hanging around with toxic people, you can say goodbye to anything new and positive that you want to create. They will respond with criticism, negativity, and judgment on any idea that you have.
Give up on the habit of spending time with toxic people and observe the magical effect it will have on your life.
If you’re having problems giving up on these habits, send me a quick email and I will see how I can help you out with that. I read every single email.